Archive for June, 2010

Dana and Andrew get married at Holly Hedge!

Sunday, June 20th, 2010
GEDC25802 300x225 Dana and Andrew get married at Holly Hedge!It was a hot, sunny, spectacularly beautiful day today for the wedding of Dana Levatino and Andrew Slipyan.  Holly Hedge in New Hope is a gorgeous setting and with the weather cooperating, it was a joyous celebration.

Dana and Andrew have an especially interesting story. They actually had another wedding date set in the summer of 2009.  However, they recognized that they had some unresolved issues to address so they took the unusually courageous step of postponing their wedding so that they could do more work on their relationship.

They recognized that working on their relationship helped them to grow up and strengthend their bond.  That made today's wedding even more of a celebration.

Dana's gown was very beautiful:  strapless and sophisticated.  The bridesmaids wore lovely  gowns the color of which I called "eggplant" but I think they said that David's Bridal called the color "lapis."

They honored their parents and families who loved and supported them through the rough times.  Andrew wore the pocket watch that belonged to his late father, Phillip.

Both bride and groom were beaming as they looked into each other's eyes and took their vows before friends and family.

In honor of their Jewish heritage, the ceremony ended with the traditional breaking of the glass.

Andrew and Dana will honeymoon in Hawaii.  Aloha!  Have a wonderful life.  I hope I have the privilege of watching it unfold.

GEDC25812 300x225 Dana and Andrew get married at Holly Hedge!

GEDC25832 300x225 Dana and Andrew get married at Holly Hedge!
 
Photos courtesy of Journeys of the Heart officiant Gabrielle Kaplan-Mayer.  Gabrielle is the author of The Creative Jewish Wedding Book


Yes! I saw that on Ellen.

Saturday, June 12th, 2010

When I was young, I dreamed of my wedding day. Mostly it was about loving someone so much that I wanted to share my life completely and whole-heartedly.  Also, I wanted all my friends and family there to support me. I never quite completed the picture, however, as to who it would be that I would be marrying. Until I was about 19, that is. It took some time  for self-acceptance, but when I got up the internal strength, I told my family: "Some day  I will meet someone I love and we'll marry – and that person will be another man." Imagine my surprise when my 87 year-old grandmother said, "Yes, I saw that on Ellen" [the sitcom, not the talk show]!

It took some family members more time than others to adjust to the news, but grandmom didn't skip a beat – she just kept on loving her grandson.

These days, there are mBob2 199x300 Yes!  I saw that on Ellen.ore media images of same-sex couples than ever before. It can still be challenging for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people to fully accept who they are – and for their families. But there is also much more support for LGBT and for LGBT families – both social support and legal support. 18 years ago when I came out, I could barely imagine a day when I could legally marry a partner. Now same-sex marriage is a reality in several states. As Martin Luther King, Jr. once said, "the arc of the universe is long but it bends toward justice." And I believe now, more than ever, that someday every state will honor equally the love and families that same-sex couples build.

In the meantime – we can certainly celebrate love!  That's what weddings and commitment ceremonies are for – celebrating with family and friends, and committing even more deeply to the development of relationship. As an officiant for same-sex couples, I've experienced a variety of ceremonies – from one filled with operatic singing and dramatic readings, to a ceremony that had just about every traditional Jewish wedding practice we could find – and everything in between. Every relationship is unique – and so is every wedding ceremony be it gay or non-gay, traditional or creatively and distinctly different!

June is LGBT Pride Month – and if you are a same-sex couple and planning your ceremony, plan it with pride! And know that Journeys of the Heart will be honored to work with you.